Wrote this with Dinah in mind a bit. Genesis 34 [link]
Also as a sort of "reply" to my other poem, "Say No". [link]Not based on personal experience thankfully
We might tell ourselves we'll say no. We might be certain that we want
to say no. But will we be able to? Someone I know had a guy tell her exactly the lines from this poem: "Stop me if I'm going too far." She ended up never saying stop! I get the impression that many guys expect the girl to set the boundaries and keep control. But it's a bit unfair to expect her to be the only one keeping a control. What if she can't?
My personal impression is that giving in is far easier than it may seem. So don't trust yourself to say no when the moment comes. Don't put yourself into a dangerous / tempting situation in the first place.
And: it's not only the girl's problem. I think in a relationship one needs to help each other
in this area. Both need to keep watchful of themselves and not expect the other to be the controlling instance and stop them. Girls aren't necessarily more controlled than guys, despite common opinion.